Series # 4

Series # 2 Excerpt

Who Can Find “A” Faithful Man


I had a heated discussion with the Lord during the summer of 2003. I mean I was passionately upset. I said, "Lord, why is it that we women are always preached to about being, The Proverbs 31 Woman, The Proverbs 31 Woman, The Proverbs 31 Woman, but nothing is being said about men being, The Proverbs 31 Man? Every man wants a Proverbs 31 Woman. You know! ‘A good ole’ Sanctified Lady!’, but many of them have not committed themselves to be a Proverbs 31 Man. A good ole’ Sanctified Man! Lord that's not right!”

Then later in October of this same year, I was browsing the Internet for more Christian books to read in the areas of men and women relationships, marriage and family life. For some reason I love teachings on matters concerning marriage and family life more than anything other subject one could teach about. Although there is a world of knowledge to be grasps and I reach for much of it, however, when it comes to marriage and family life, I have such a stirring passion for the subject. In my heart, it has first place. Maybe it’s because it is the first institutions ordained by God.

In my pursuit for more books on relationships I came across a new book by one of my favorite Christian writer and speaker, Michelle McKinney Hammond, titled, "In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man.”  I was shock and couldn't believe my eyes. Yet I was amazed and excited to see a book on the very thing I had cried to the Lord about just a few months before.

I had no ideal Ms. McKinney Hammond had written a new book. I was just looking for one of her books that I hadn’t purchased yet. I’ve been reading her material for a few years and have been truly blessed by them. When I saw her new book on the Internet, I couldn’t get out of my house fast enough to go get it. Seeing that the title alone was a direct answer to a prayer, I went immediately to Barnes & Noble to purchase it. The moment I laid hands on it, I opened it to see when it was published. It was published and released on October 21, 2003. I thought, WOW! God is so awesome!  The Lord was providing an answer and a confirmation, concerning my prayer in a book He had appointed for her to write. She was in the process of writing that book while I was speaking to the Lord. The Lord always hears and answers our prayers and He always come through, At the Appointed Time!


I will answer them before they call to me.

While they are still talking to me about their needs,

I will go ahead and answer their prayers!

Isaiah 65:24 (NLT)


Just think! What if she had failed to obey Him? If she hadn’t, I would have missed out on an answer to my prayer through her gift of writing. And thank you Ms. Hammond for obeying the call of God on your life. You have inspired me greatly. Your gift of ministry has encouraged me to never give up, to gauge my standards according to the word of God and to encourage others to do the same, to the glory of God our Father.

Books have been written throughout the ages, to give us wisdom, knowledge, inspiration, encouragement and motivation. God is the all wise God and the Author of authors. Though there are millions of books we can gain wisdom and knowledge from none surpasses the books of the Bible. It is the Living Word of God. And no matter how many times we read it, there is no end to its revelation.


Wisdom is the principal thing;

Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.

Exalt her, and she will promote you; She will bring you honor,

 when you embrace her. She will place on your head an ornament of grace;

A crown of glory she will deliver to you."

Proverbs 4:7-9 (NKJV)



Please know, this chapter is not about Ms. Hammond’s book, “In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man.” She has done a superb job on the subject and I highly recommend that you read her book for your insight and encouragement. I was tremendously blessed by it, that I bought several to give away. That is my practice whenever I read books with profound life-giving messages. I wish it were in every Christian man’s home, car, desk, coat pocket, back pocket, I-Pod, computer screen saver or home page (smile), and more importantly, living large in every man’s heart. All I desire to do is share with you, what has been given to me. I elaborate on the Mother who instructs her son instructions were giving to him by his Mother.

December 31, 2003, just before the New Year’s Eve night service. It was around 9:00 p.m., and I was reading Proverbs 31. The Lord began pointing out to me the Mother in Proverbs 31. I felt the Lord was saying to me, “Do you see the mother here in the first verse?” So I began to zero in on her. He impressed upon me to observe her more closely as she began to admonish and instruct her son. The Lord was showing me that much has been said about the “Who can find a Virtuous wife message,” also known as the Proverbs 31 Woman, but King Lemuel’s Mother has been many times over looked. The entire chapter is son telling us what his Mother taught him. Proverbs 31 should be a chapter that’s taught and studied by more men than women. Not to exclude another. We are simply dealing with this particular part for now.

Series # 4 Excerpt

    “At the Appointed Time!”


Here in this chapter you are going to see how hatred and oppression of others can


usher you right into their destiny. When God has a plan for your life, it does not


matter what people do or say. Nor does it matter what things look like.


We are going to view four individuals who experience a lot of hatred, hardship


and grief. They were forced from their home, family and freedom. Neither of these


individual‘s life started off tragically, but for some of them it went from a state of peace


and contentment, to a state of distress and oppression. It appeared their lives would come


to a bitter end, but the Lord had a plan that took them from tragedy to triumph. These


individual’s lives are recorded in biblical history and one in recent history. Their’ lives


experiences proves over and over again, that no matter what man may plot against us, our


lives are in God’s hand; and it is His counsel that will stand.



So He will do for me all He has planned. He controls my destiny.

(Job 23:14 NLT)



There are many plans in a man's heart,

Nevertheless the LORD's counsel — that will stand.

(Proverbs 19:21 NKJV)



Jephthah was one of the sons of Gilead and his mother was a prostitute. His


father Gilead was married and he had seven other sons by his wife. When all his brothers


grew up they ran him out of the land because his mother was a prostitute. Jephthah


then went to lived in a land called Tob, meaning, “Good.” There the men of the area


were called mighty warriors and Jephthah was one of them.



Now Jephthah of Gilead was a great warrior.

He was the son of Gilead, but his mother was a prostitute.

Gilead's wife also had several sons, and when these half brothers grew up,

they chased Jephthah off the land. "You will not get any of our father's inheritance,"

they said, "for you are the son of a prostitute."

So Jephthah fled from his brothers and lived in the land of Tob.

Soon he had a large band of rebels following him.

(Judges 11:1-3 NLT)



One day the Ammonites attacked the leaders of Gilead, demanding they hand


over the land, claiming it originally belong to them. When the leaders of received the


Amonities threats, guess who they sent for? Their brother Jephthah! They knew he was a


mighty warrior and could help them defeat the Ammonites. They asked him to come and


be their commander in chief. Now can you imagine that?


When the Ammonites attacked,

the leaders of Gilead sent for Jephthah in the land of Tob.

They said, "Come and be our commander! Help us fight the Ammonites!"

Judges 11:4-5 NLT)



Jephthah’s responded was quite normal. He said, oh now your tails are in trouble


and you need me. Then he asked them what he would get in return for helping. And did


he get a deal!



But Jephthah said to them,

"Aren't you the ones who hated me and drove me from my father's house?

Why do you come to me now when you're in trouble?"

"Because we need you," they replied.

"If you will lead us in battle against the Ammonites,

we will make you ruler over all the people of Gilead."

(Judges 11:7-8 NLT)


Jephthah said,

"If I come with you and if the LORD gives me victory over the Ammonites,

will you really make me ruler over all the people?"

"The LORD is our witness," the leaders replied.

"We promise to do whatever you say."

(Judges 11:9-10 NLT)



Jephthah took the offer, but his heart was not in the offer, his heart was with God


and his people. Even though they ran him off he was willing to defend them because he


knew the Lord and he knew the Lord gave them the land and he wasn’t going to let


anyone take it from them. Jephthah sent word by letter to the king of Ammon and told


him God gave them the land and they weren’t giving up anything. But the Ammonities


were still determined to take it.


"This is what Jephthah says: Israel did not steal any land from Moab or Ammon.

When the people of Israel arrived at Kadesh on their journey from Egypt

after crossing the Red Sea, they sent messengers to the king of Edom

asking for permission to pass through his land. But their request was denied.

Then they asked the king of Moab for similar permission,

but he wouldn't let them pass through either. So the people of Israel stayed in Kadesh. "Finally, they went around Edom and Moab through the wilderness.

They traveled along Moab's eastern border

and camped on the other side of the Arnon River.

But they never once crossed the Arnon River into Moab.

"Then Israel sent messengers to King Sihon of the  Amorites,

who ruled from Heshbon, asking for permission

to cross through his land to get to their destination.

But King Sihon didn't trust Israel to pass through his land.

Instead, he mobilized his army at Jahaz and attacked them.

But the LORD, the God of Israel, gave his people victory over King Sihon.

So Israel took control of all the land of the Amorites, who lived in that region,

from the Arnon River to the Jabbok River, and from the wilderness to the Jordan.

"So you see, it was the LORD, the God of Israel,

who took away the land from the Amorites and gave it to Israel.

Why, then, should we give it to you?

You keep whatever your god Chemosh gives you,

and we will keep whatever the LORD our God gives us.

Are you any better than Balak son of Zippor, king of Moab?

Did he try to make a case against Israel for disputed land? Did he go to war?

No, of course not. But now after three hundred years you make an issue of this!

Israel has been living here all this time, spread across the land from Heshbon to Aroer and in all the towns along the Arnon River.

Why have you made no effort to recover it before now? I have not sinned against you. Rather, you have wronged me by attacking me.

Let the LORD, who is judge, decide today which of us is right —Israel or Ammon."

But the king of Ammon paid no attention to Jephthah's message.

(Judges 11:14-28 NLT)



The Spirit of the Lord came upon Jephthah to give him victory and he began


mobilizing his troops. But in the process, Jephthath made a vow for something God have


already equipped him to do. He vowed to God that if He would give him victory over the


Ammonites he would offer to Him the first thing that came out of his house. Jephthah


didn’t have to do that because the Spirit of God had come upon him to do just that. The


Sprit of the Lord was upon Samson when he used Samson to destroy Israel’s enemies, the


Philistines. The Spirit of God was upon David when he killed a bear and a lion with his


bare hands, and a Philistine giant with a stone and a slingshot and many other battles. So


had the Spirit of God come upon on Jephthah to give Him victory over their enemies too.



At that time the Spirit of the LORD came upon Jephthah,

and he went throughout the land of Gilead and Manasseh,

including Mizpah in Gilead, and led an army against the Ammonites.

And Jephthah made a vow to the LORD. He said,

"If you give me victory over the Ammonites,

I will give to the LORD the first thing coming out of my house to greet me

when I return in triumph. I will sacrifice it as a burnt offering."

(Judges 11:28-31 NLT)



God gave them victory and Jephthah honored his vow to God, but for Jephthah and his


daughter it was a grievous tragedy. The first person to run out of his house to meet him


was his virgin daughter. The Lord never requires, nor does He accept human scarifies. He


never has and He never will. In fact He forbids it (Deuteronomy 12:30-31). That is why


He never allowed Abraham to sacrifice his son Isaac in the land of Moriah.

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